Survivors’ Stories

Many men think the domestic abuse or domestic violence is only happening to them and no other man has suffered in the same way.

This is not true, as the Government’s own statistics show – one in six men will be a victim in their lifetime and one in three of all victims of domestic abuse are men.

Our help-line receives calls from dustmen to doctors, to bakers and bankers, to teachers to tradesmen – from right across the UK and across the full range of backgrounds, ethnicities and sexualities.

To give any men the confidence to come forward and to reassure them that they are not alone, some of the men we have helped in the past tell their story and how they escaped and rebuilt their lives (names have been changed to respect anonymity).

.Men tell their stories to ManKind

Mothers tell their stories about their sons to ManKind

Men tell their stories – Radio and Recordings

Men tell their stories – Press and TV

Below is a list of media coverage where men have told their story to encourage other men to find the courage to get help or domestic abuse has been covered. The stories show the police will support you – if you recognise any other of this extreme behaviour, please get help – Call 999

Daily Mail (March 2016): Middle Class Husbands and Wives

Confined (short film) – characters are played by actors

BBC Cambridgeshire – No shame to be a male victim

Daily Mail (31 Oct 2014) http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2815712/Woman-attacked-boyfriend-hammer-pole-broken-bottle-jailed-eight-years-one-worst-cases-domestic-violence-police-seen.html

The Independent (14 April 2013) http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/health-news/domestic-violence-as-a-man-its-very-difficult-to-say-ive-been-beaten-up-8572143.html

BBC Kent (09 August 2012)
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-kent-19195433

Daily Mirror (27 July 2012) http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/real-life-stories/attacked-with-hammers-boiling-water-and-lit-1172088

Daily Star (13 May 2012) http://www.dailystar.co.uk/posts/view/250919

BBC Breakfast (06 September 2010) http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-11196907

Daily Mirror (8th March 2010) http://www.mirror.co.uk/life-style/real-life/2010/03/11/a-male-victim-of-domestic-violence-explains-why-he-was-living-in-fear-of-his-wife-115875-22101166/

If you are survivor, can you speak out?

Would you be able to speak up and help other men. The media sometimes contact the charity wanting to speak to men who have suffered from domestic abuse in the past.

If you feel you would like to share your story and give confidence to help more men to come forward, please contact the Chairman (chairman@mankind.org.uk) who will contact you confidentially to talk about this. At no stage would the charity ever give your contact details to the media without your permission on every single occasion.

The following sets out the process and you will need to be out of the relationship for a very minimum of two years.

Click for more explanation: Could you help other men escape?